I’m a white woman. I grew up with a roof over my head and food on the table. I didn’t worry about things like money or my safety or being negatively profiled by authority figures. Sure I had times that were tough like my sexual assault or having a facial difference, but my whiteness never equated to a negative experience.
Because of my privilege, I cannot understand black experiences. The closest I ever got to witnessing an attack on someone’s background was when a drunk man aggressively got in the face of an American friend and shouted at her to ‘fuck off back to where she came from’. That terrified me, but that was a one off incident in my life and it wasn’t directed at me.
I could sit here and list all the things I haven’t experienced because I was born white, but this isn’t about me. Some white people have somehow turned the Black Lives Matter movement into something that makes them the victim. They have made it all about them.
But it’s not. It’s about the ‘radical’ idea that black people are people too. It’s a conversation that needs to be had to spark a change that must happen.
Right now so many people are backing out of difficult conversations and saying things like ‘but I don’t discriminate’, but this isn’t about us. History screams loudly with white voices, but now it is our turn to listen, to educate ourselves, to show up and show support.
If you want to do your own research, donate or help understand how to be a better ally, here are some links below:
This book has also been highly recommended: Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge
There are many other websites, groups, accounts, books and support pages out there, but I thought I’d share just a few to get people started. These are great places to learn more and have links to many more places to continue that learning journey.
I really hope that we learn to listen, to do better and that change will come.